Teachable Mom Moment: “Mean” kids

If a parent sees a world full of dangerous and horrible things, how can they expect their child who learns by imitation to see a world full of potential and possibility?  There is good and bad all around us; there always has been, and always will be.

I had a 5:30 am conversation with K (13); she said she was struggling to stay positive throughout the day and was having trouble with some “mean kids” already. Of course the first thought is to comfort, but that isn’t going to serve her for future situations, and so I took a minute to gather my thoughts and told her to forget the whole “cup half full/half empty” analogy (it is one of my least favorites).  For as long as I can remember, cups have been refillable and I wanted to teach her how to refill her own.  I explained that when a person feels good, truly good on the inside, they don’t need to tear anyone down.  I explained to her that instead of allowing those kids to bring down her vibration, she should wish them healing because they obviously need it. She is love and she is beautiful. She is not what they say she is, but if she allows their actions to dictate her emotions, SHE is responsible for HER negative feelings, NOT them. It was hard for her to hear that she needed to take responsibility for her own thoughts, but it is empowering and it will grow her. I told her that changing the way she sees the others will also help her to change the way she sees herself.  Kids are not handling adversity well these days. They are not facing challenges or fighting their own battles because we have not done a great job collectively teaching them how, but it’s never too late to make a change.

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